I've been missing for a month or so, I'm aware (Dodges rotten tomatoes and deletes all email threats) BUT I'm back now...thank Dingbat for giving me the thoughts to formulate this post...
Mixed Signals...it's a *BEEP*, isn't it? It's like Confusing the Confused, but worse. Take it from me.
But why? Why the mixed signals? What are you not sure about? Why must you confuse?
Lets take a simple story....
You got a boy, you got a girl, sitting underneath a tree.
They sit there everyday...
And even though, you may think, this is the way that things should be
It may not always be that way...
They're friends, pompers, exes, whatever the relation; there is "something" between them.
The girl likes the boy, the boy may or may not like the girl, but they sit underneath the tree. Lost to the world. Oblivious to everything around them. The girl shows affection, shes honest about her feelings, but the boy closes up. The girl begins to think the boy is heartless, he's giving her mixed signals, she does the only thing she thinks is now the only option: she gets up and walks away. Leaving the once comfortable, enjoyable "something" between them lost..but not completely forgotten.
But why did he let her walk away? The fact that she was there in the first place meant something, right? Did he feel something for her? They begin to question everything, analyse every detail...but in the end, they're apart so it doesnt matter anymore.
It hurts both of them. It haunts them. They question what happened, the memories, they wonder if they should let go of it, or wait and see if it may happen again. They use other people to have fun (Pomping or otherwise) to try to forget, try to escape the pain...but before they get attatched to someone else, they let them go. They don't want to be in the position they were before, feel the pain they once felt again...
They look for answers to the questions that plague them, but in honest truth they have none. And that makes them feel even worse. How can they move on, when theyre still trying to move away from the past?
What's the answer? What should they do? Don't ask me, I'm neither Dr Phil nor Jerry Springer nor Oprah. I'm just Kathy. An individual with my own opinion, my own thoughts, my own actions. The way I see things is different from the way you see it. I give personal advice, not objective advice. So again, you ask, what to do? The only thing I can think of is honesty.
Be honest with yourself. Find closure,talk to the other person, be open and figure out the answers to those questions. It may be the last thing on your mind, you may think it's opening old wounds...but isn't it better to open and old wound to let it heal properly instead of leaving the scab? Even after you have healed the scar will always be there...But the beauty of scars is that it's a reminder of what used to be. It's a mark for a memory that has helped you grow and develop as an individual and someday you'll be proud of it and the memories that came with it as it will be a lesson for life....
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